(Even animals have a sense of home and a family, how about us?)
Recently I picked up a piece of paper with a note neatly written there, “I need more affection than you know.” As a father with two teen age sons I got curious about it. The first thing that came into my mind, who wrote it? To whom was it intended and the reason for writing it? Again I asked myself, is it for me? Did my wife or any of my sons probably wrote it for me because I have been so busy lately and I had no time with my family? Of course my father-in-law stays with us but it’s a remote possibility for him to write such note.
Many years back, I left my wife for an assignment in one of the remote places in the country. She was pregnant then with my youngest son. Having been used to public service, I ignored my wife’s pleading to turned down the assignment. This means I have to resign from public health and become a private medical practitioner myself. My wife is a nurse and we could start our own clinic. Nevertheless the call for duty and to attend to the needs of the poorest of the poor prevailed.
For sometime, my wife did not talk to me. We’re practically having a cold war for a year. Even if I went home for a brief vacation, she had not been that enthusiastic. The worse she went abroad to work leaving our youngest son, who was barely 1 year old then, to her mom to take care. A sign of protest, yes. I know my wife is one who could keep her own feelings without telling it to others. I failed to read her body language, “I need more affection than you know.” Yes, she wanted me to teach a lesson, to give more time to my family and “be a real husband to her and a father to my children.” Honestly, it took me long to know and understand I have neglected my family “for the call of duty.” And, you know, I learned it the hard way.
Suddenly I felt a hand tapping my shoulder. It’s my wife. She embraced and kiss me like we’re still on honeymoon and one of the best and loveliest I’ve got from her over the years we have been together.
“Dad, that’s for son Magdiwang,” she said. But before I could say anything she whispered something to me. “He has now a girlfriend. And the girl is also longing for more attention. But your son gives more priority to his studies because he wants to graduate with honors.”
I just shook my head. But I know and I’m confident whatever happens we are both here together now watching our sons as they grow. Some years back I had this struggle within me, whether I would leave my assignment and be with my family or not. I know I did everything to save lives to make people healthier and happier in this particular part of the country. I was not only a healer then but also acted as a community builder. Luckily a young idealistic doctor took my place whose vision and mission of service is also “healthy people and prosperous community life.”
Over a couple of thousand years back a child was born in a manger, an unimaginable picture of poverty for one who is so special- the son of God. He set a good example of service to mankind. He was a friend, a teacher, and a healer of men. He fed the hungry and gave hope to the destitute, to the outcasts, and to the broken hearted. He showed the way, the truth and the life. He resurrected the dead for us to know what God has in store for us. He allowed His Son to be nailed at the cross to wash away our sins that we may have life.
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16
Jesus is the greatest lover of men and a our Saviour. He knows more than we do. We need not tell Him, “I need more affection than you know.” He is always there ready to love and comfort us for as long as we have faith in Him and accept Him as our personal Saviour.
Happy Valentines to all, may God bless you!